If you want to achieve any goal, you need to be unstoppable.
Whether that goal is to slim down, start a new business, get a new job or run a marathon. You have to fully commit - stay focused and take consistent, inspired action.
You have to keep going and not stop until it's done. Until you've achieved what you set out to do.
Yet most of us don't. We get started, we go for a bit, then we get in our way. We slow ourselves down. We get to a certain point, get tired of doing all the 'things' and talk ourselves out of achieving that goal.
You may recognise thoughts like:
This isn't going to work for me, I really can't do this
Last time I tried this it didn't work either
I don't think I can keep doing this
You start to doubt yourself, wonder what on earth you were thinking when you decided to go after this goal and you stop. You go back to doing what you've always done and nothing changes. Life stays the same, despite that not being what you really want.
So how can you stop doing this? How do you become unstoppable?
You need to understand why humans behave the way we do.
Which starts with understanding your mind and how it works.
And I have the perfect framework for that....
Think - Feel - Do.
What this model shows us is that your behaviour, i.e. what you do, doesn't appear out of nowhere. Your behaviour is always driven by how you feel.
And how you feel comes from your thoughts - what you're thinking.
So why do we give up?
We start thinking unhelpful thoughts.
I can't do this.
It's taking too long.
I hate missing out.
It's so boring.
This is so hard.
When you're thinking unhelpful thoughts, you're going to feel unhelpful feelings like disappointment, worry, frustration or like it's all too hard. And what sort of action are unhelpful feelings going to drive?
Well you can be sure of one thing. It's certainly not going to be inspired action!
And this is why your commitment wavers.
Any kind of positive change that you want in your life, no matter what it is, is never going to be as a result of thinking unhelpful thoughts.
You are never going to get positive change as a result of frustration, worry, overwhelm, disappointment or doubt. These feelings will not have you feeling inspired, or motivated. These feelings will cause you to feel uninspired, unmotivated and keep you stuck.
Change requires you to be willing to try something new, take risks, put yourself out there, be uncomfortable, persevere and to pick yourself up when you fall down.
So what feelings fuel this type of action for you?
For me it would be determination. Or courage.
So by understanding the think-feel-do cycle and knowing that feelings fuel our actions, if you want to become unstoppable, you need to find out what feelings motivate you.
Then find the thoughts that create these feelings and practice them. Daily.
And when you can do this, you will truly be unstoppable.
If you need help doing this, get in touch. I'm here to help....
